Lipo Cocktail???

So this morning I was on my way to work and tuned in to 104.1 by chance. Usually I listen to 95.7 on my way to school to get me pumped up for the day ahead... but they were being boring so I switched over. As I tuned in I heard this girl talking about how she wanted to get lipo asap because she could not stand to be seen in a bikini in front of her fiance's family. As I listened more I noted the desperation in her voice, the helplessness. I felt so bad for someone I don't even know. I wanted to call up and say "You are not hopeless! You are not a fat ass!," but I don't really want to be on the radio, so I didn't. But I could not help but think about my own, and probably some of your, situations while I drove.

So often we have problems (weight, money, relationships, career, etc.) that we are so desperate about, so hopeless about, that we do not know where to begin to solve the issue or tackle the problem that is blocking us from our goal. But it IS possible. I have learned over the last few years, but namely, the last month or so as I have embarked on a healthier lifestyle, that the change you want to see is completely up to YOU. So, yeah that sucks, there are no cop outs, there are no excuses, there is no one else to blame your crap on than you, but it feels really good when you take charge of your own future and goals.

In relationships if you are not being treated correctly and with love and admiration from your partner and YOU stick around~ that is on YOU. Not on the other person. I married my husband because he treasures who I am- on my best day as well as my worst. He also thinks of me before he thinks of himself and I do the same for him. THAT is a mutual relationship. Not one where you are constantly chasing the other person or wishing he did this or treated you like that. But again, YOU are the only one to blame if you do not seek the true happiness you deserve.

I have found that the same standards I set for myself in relationships are the ones I am now setting for myself in health and wellness as well. I would not put up with being treated shitty, so why would I put shitty things in my body? It wouldn't make sense.

So in a world of excuses, blaming others and apathy let's take a stand to control our own destiny. We may really like how it turns out.....

xoxo,

Kelley :)

So Boring, Right???? Or Wrong?

So this weekend is my 28th birthday.. yeeshhhh. I still remember my 21st birthday where I was getting ready at the ZTA house for a party with 100 of my closest (?) friends, all fraternity and sorority girls from the University of Houston. When I look back on that day the realization that hits me like a ton of bricks is I have not spoken to probably over 3/4th of those people since the day I graduated. But at the time I was willing to push my family to the side to party with the people who "mattered" to me. And I am not saying that it is horrible to have done that, that I would have never been so selfish if I knew then what I knew now, because I know it was an experience I had to go through, had to live for myself, had to see the changes I needed to make for myself.

I am so content this birthday to have a small brunch at home surrounded by my family, my husband and my dogs... because when you get down to it there are few people in the world who will ever take better care of you. Few people that will ever care as much as they do about your successes, your struggles, your anxieties, your triumphs and everything in between.

Yeah, I might be "boring" now and no a jaegar bomb may never pass these lips on the big bday... but gosh.... boring has never felt better.

have a great weekend,

Kelley

Would you like some extra WHINE with that cheese???

On the right.....

So this was me.... just about 3 years ago. Extremely fit and completely underwhelmed professionally and personally. Yes, I had my workouts down and my hot body, but inside I was unfulfilled. I was in a job I didn't love and in and out of relationships that I knew were going nowhere. I also questioned my own morals, my values and my belief system. In short, I was kind of a shitty person. (not at all afraid to admit it)

On the left.....

Fast forward to the present~ wonderful career, loving and supportive family and and amazing new husband and life on the inside could not be better. Sometimes it feels in life like when you get one thing really really RIGHT other things go really really WRONG. Because of my wonderful career, extracurricular activities and my AMAZING new husband my workouts/watching what I eat/leading an active lifestyle had gone down the drain. I know we have all been there at one time or another in our lives~ you fall in love and things that used to be important to you just aren't anymore. You want to be with that person and have fun wine-filled dinners all the time- and there is nothing wrong with that I have learned- as long as your fitness and nutrition is in check with that fun too.

Now to some the picture to the left may not be a big deal~ she doesn't look so bad, right? But to me, someone who has always been extremely active in dance, sports, running, etc. it is. Not just because of how I look but because of how I FEEL. I don't feel like I have the energy I want to, the focus to make my body feel as healthy as my inside feels.

All of this seemed like such a daunting task a few weeks ago- someone who had never had to worry about weight, etc having to face the facts that dang it I was chunky. During the best time of my life leading up to my wedding the dark cloud that hovered was my changed body. I wanted to look the most beautiful I ever had for the day I married my best friend. Somehow it just did not happen and I was discouraged.

About 2 weeks ago I made the wonderful decision to meet with Ms. Kaci Coble, one of my old sorority sisters. Back in the day I would never think of having to see a nutritionist or someone who could motivate me and whip me back to my normal form. But I did need it. I needed to voice my concerns and fears to someone who understood because they had done what I wanted to do and a LOT more. Kaci showed me I could still LIVE my life without having to sacrifice the old body I wanted back. And watch out world...... cause that shell is coming back. :) Check her out at kacicoble.com Thanks Kaci.

xoxo,

Kelley

Hello Blogging World! (what the hell am I thinking?)

So here's the truth......







So I decided before Jonathan and I got married that I wanted to start a blog. Not one of those really boring, say-everything-I-did-even-when-all-I-did-was-order-pizza ones, but a real good one. Something thought provoking that let people know I was a serious wife, daughter, Martha Stewart-in-training, teacher, etc. Something that would convey meaning, something that would inspire, something that people would remember. However as I embark on my blogging "career" (as many people who already blog told me it was) I find that I do not know what to write about. Rather, I suppose, that all the things I thought were not important- those day to day chats with friends and family, the runs to the grocery store, the impromptu date nights and everything in between really ARE the most important part of my life. Those day to day activities comprise the memories I share with my closest friends, my family, my pets and my husband. So dang it, why can't that be interesting in and of itself? This blog will be my attempt to keep our family and friends around the world informed of our life, but also with a great dose of our thoughts, insights, struggles, accomplishments, advice, etc. sprinkled in between.








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The above pic are some of the real "boring" things in my life everyday... and I love every minute with them.

xoxoxo,

Kelley